Why I do what I do
I've been in recovery for nearly 30 years.
By the time I decided to get help for my compulsive behaviors my life was one hot mess! Once in "rehab" I worked the 12-steps and went to 90 meetings in 90 days. Yet, despite how much I hated what my compulsive behaviors had done to my life and loathing myself for having done it, I relapsed soon after graduating from "the program." Alcoholics Anonymous was a great support system for my early years of recovery. And as a support system there are many times it is invaluable. But it is not therapy, and I knew I needed more than just support. I needed "recovery." I needed to get to the core of my behavior. I needed to understand why I did what I did if I was ever to stop doing it.
It wasn't until I spent nearly two years in a therapist's office who expressed non-judgmental compassion that I was able to truly confront and address my personal demons and the underlying causes for my behavior. Many of those causes had been inflicted by others, while some were self-inflicted. During my time in therapy I was eventually able to empower myself to change, and eventually "recover" my former self. Everyone has a reason for acting out compulsively to cope with their life's difficulties, and its usually necessary to examine what they are and to put them in their proper place for recovery to occur.
That is why I choose to work exclusively in the area of compulsive behaviors and with those areas associated with them. In drawing from my personal experience in life and in recovery I acquired the additional education and training to help others who are currently making similar choices that I made to compulsively act out. Whether it be with drugs and alcohol or through other behaviors like gambling, pornography, or over-spending, everyone has a core reason "why" they do what they do. And to help the loved ones of those with a compulsive behavior, I've also chosen to work with couples and families whose relationships have been adversely affected by that behavior. With time and effort on everyone's part, relationships can heal and they can rekindle the love, trust and respect that once existed between them.
How much I appreciate Joe has a lot to do with the changes I have seen in myself, as a direct result of working with him for the last three years. Upon entering a treatment program at Mesa Springs in Fort Worth, I was blessed to meet Joe and become a patient of his. Joe showed me recovery was possible, but also a challenge unlike you have ever experienced. I continue my battle with depression, addiction, and life's challenges with Joe after he opened his private practice. I have never met someone like Joe, and if you are reading this I urge you to meet him and see what I see....It's never too late."
--- S.P., Mansfield